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Personal Style : 5 Tips for Finding Your Own

Words: @oliverinstead • Photos: David

Growing up in Malaysia, I had no ideal what ‘personal style’ was… Heck! I didn’t even know that ‘style’ was a thing until a couple of years ago. For the looooongest time I just wore what I thought looked kind of decent, without actually knowing if it suited me… even though I like to think I’d always had an eye for it. Whatever ‘it’ is.

Having experimented with my personal style quite a bit – especially recently, having acquired my first piercing and changed up the same slicked-back hair I’d worn for years – I decided to share what I’ve learnt from my journey to finding my own personal style.


one Find your style inspo

In the age of Instagram (follow me!) and Pinterest, there’s a whole world of fashion right at your fingertip – so go explore it!

Don’t restrict yourself to celebs and Insta-famous peeps though! You may just find your new style crush in your classmate, neighbour, or someone you see at the bus stop every morning!


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two Understand your body shape

Newsflash : we all come in different shapes and sizes. I’m two inches shorter than I would’ve liked and I don’t have the world’s most desirable proportion, so I work around that by pairing tops that cut at the right length so my legs appear longer with bottoms that don’t make my lower half shorter or stumpier than they are.


three Recognise what makes your heart sing

…and what doesn’t. Ask yourself : is there anything that you’ll never wear? Not necessarily because it doesn’t look good on you, but simply because you don’t feel comfortable wearing it – because comfort is key.

For me, I know green isn’t the best hue for my skin tone (and I learned that the hard way) so I vowed never to sport that colour again!


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four Try different things

As cheesy as it may sound : there’s no other way to truly know whether a style or a trend suits you than to try it on.

Personally, I’ve tried many different styles… and I still am! I may hate my piercing two months down the line / maybe I’ll miss the good ol’ quiff, but so far I’ve built my wardrobe around a very specific style of clothing – which brings me to the final tip…


five Shop smarter

Once you’ve honed in on your personal style, invest in a capsule collection of items that you’ll wear time and time again, and preferably will not go out of style.

Speaking for myself, prints (namely stripes) and bright colours aren’t my best friends, that’s why my wardrobe is made out of basic, monochrome and plain pieces.


I hope you’ve found these tips useful! I want to know how did you discover your personal style, and how would you describe it? Let me know!!


Oliver ❤️

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  • Reply
    Alice Cruickshank
    February 5, 2018 at 1:25 pm

    Great post! You have such a cool style. Thanks for sharing 🙂

    • Reply
      February 5, 2018 at 9:27 pm

      Thanks Alice! Hope you’ve found it an enjoyable read ❤️

      Oliver x

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    February 5, 2018 at 1:38 pm

    I’m not a stylish person at all. But I do love skinny jeans and slogan tees!

  • Reply
    February 6, 2018 at 12:19 am

    Good tips!

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    February 6, 2018 at 2:56 am

    Awww I love this post, finding out what works best for your body shape is everything

  • Reply
    February 6, 2018 at 1:43 pm

    Such a great post! I’m not sure if I have a particular style as such, I just wear what I like.

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    Charli Bruce
    February 6, 2018 at 1:54 pm

    These are some great tips, it’s really hard sometimes being able to find your own personal style when things are being pushed down your throat by the fashion industry. Although I think finding stuff that suits you and you feel comfortable in is the most important x

    • Reply
      February 7, 2018 at 11:27 am

      Yes!! As I said in the post, comfort is absolutely key! I no longer ‘follow trends’ exactly but I do look for inspo from what’s popular at the mo 😉

      Oliver x

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    Nicolette Lafonseca-Hargreaves
    February 7, 2018 at 11:22 am

    Great tips, understanding body type and shopping smarter has finally become my mantra

    • Reply
      February 7, 2018 at 11:25 am

      Glad you’ve found my tips helpful 😊

      Oliver x

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    November 21, 2018 at 4:29 pm

    I love these tips, you have really given me food for thought especially at a time when my wardrobe is overwhelming! Great read, oh and I love your style. Laura x

    • Reply
      November 21, 2018 at 6:03 pm

      Awww thanks for the comment, Laura! Much appreciated! ❤️

      Oliver x

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